I recently read a post on the Gospel Coalition blog by Gloria Furman on, as she puts it,
the stereotypical, habitual, manipulative complaining that we women often try to justify as “reminding.”
She then goes on to challenge us in combating this particularly devious and destructive sin in our own lives. Three things she noticed about a friend’s attack on nagging were:
- She took her nagging seriously and called it what it is.
- She owned it.
- She dug into the Word of God and let God dig through her heart.
She also offers ways to positively replace nagging in our lives:
1. Rejoice in Jesus and his perfections. He is the eternal Word whose words give eternal life (John 6:68-69). Jesus laid aside the glory he was entitled to in order to become our Suffering Servant who died in our place. This Jesus is not just our example; he is our Savior who rose victoriously from the dead. He lives forever to empower us to serve him and others.
2. Instead of nagging, ask yourself if there is something you could do to serve someone for Jesus’ sake and serve with the strength that God supplies (1 Pet. 4:11).
3. Then open your mouth to give grace instead: “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear” (Eph. 4:29).
I encourage you to read the entire post and prayerfully examine your own hearts as well!