Here is a post by Rachel Jankovic about the day-to-day training and teaching of little ones that goes on in our homes. An important point she makes is this:
How do we so totally forget what we are actually raising? These are children, they are eternal souls. They are not supposed to be easy. They are not supposed to pass through our homes like quiet guests. They are supposed to be the unmaking and the making of us. They are supposed to challenge us and change us. Having a houseful of kids is not supposed to be quiet. It is not supposed to be clean.